I am not your typical relationships coach. I take a different approach to guiding people through renegotiating their monogamy or opening up to polyamory. This is less about the “how” of successfully managing alternative relationship formats, and more about the “why”.

My name is Lulu and I have spent the better part of my life thinking about relationships - probably just like you. For the longest time, I thought monogamy was the highest moral standard and that as a woman, it was my duty, nay, my purpose, to be coupled up with a man and to forsake everything else, including myself. I was in a monogamous marriage, I cheated on multiple occasions, I harbored shame and resentment towards myself for not finding happiness in the cookie cutter relationships I was doomed to fail at.

Luckily, 8 years ago, I became familiar with non-monogamy and I dove into every possible book and experiences I could find to truly understand my (and others) ability to relate and prioritize people rather than blindly subscribing to a relationship format based on control and sexual repression.

I will spend most of our time together on deconstructing the beliefs that aren’t your own and build a value system that is fully yours. Why monogamy? why polyamory? I’ll help you answer these questions and entangle the web of lies that has surrounded sexual and romantic exclusivity for far too long.